Virgo Love and Friendship

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Virgos are diplomatic, undemanding, and thoughtful companions who value intelligence above style and stability over intensity in romantic relationships and friendships. They do best with calm, practical, reasonable companions who have a passion for learning and intellectual development.


Virgos are very choosy when it comes to friends and lovers—they won’t hang around with just anyone.

Virgos do fall in love, but it takes a very special person to win them over because they are independent by nature and afraid of being hurt. They hate to be vulnerable to others and love is the greatest vulnerability, so they do not fall in love easily and they are very selective.

Some Virgos are voluntarily single due to emotional caution or because they would rather be on their own than settle for a badly flawed relationship. They also tend to be fastidious, and they have difficulty tolerating people who are careless about cleanliness and personal hygiene.

Virgos require a strong base of shared interests to maintain close relationships. Most are interested in fitness, health, or nutrition, and they use this knowledge to positively influence the habits of those around them. Virgos do best with friends and lovers who share their fitness and health pursuits.


Ideal companions for Virgos are those who appreciate love shown through considerate and helpful actions rather than romantic words and gestures or emotionally charged discussions about feelings. Typical Virgos are happy to receive useful gifts rather than showy things that have no practical value, and they demonstrate their love with practical gifts and gestures as well.

Virgos are quick to assist friends in need when they require practical help. Although they have trouble dealing with emotional outpourings and finding the right words to provide comfort, Virgos are very good at helping friends and lovers in tangible ways that involve physically doing something for the other person.


Virgos have a powerful intellectual curiosity about other people, and this intense focus is sometimes mistaken for romantic interest. Analytical and intrigued by human nature, Virgos want to learn what makes their friends and lovers tick.

Typical Virgos like to know how things work and how to do things, so they spend much of their free time researching topics of interest. They appreciate companions who are similarly interested in learning new things and those who have useful knowledge to impart.

Virgos are usually drawn to people by intellectual curiosity rather than for shallower reasons. Because they need intellectual stimulation, they will quickly grow bored in the company of those who make small talk rather than speaking of serious, important things.

Virgos are attracted by brilliant minds rather than surface charm and slick banter, so they are less likely to be taken in by sociopaths who win others over with a combination of charisma and flattery.

Virgos can be dazzled by beauty like everyone else. However, they are quick to get over their infatuation if the beautiful individual is not intellectually dazzling as well.


Virgos are reasonable companions, not prone to creating emotional drama or picking fights. Classy and self-controlled by nature, Virgos are unlikely to make ugly scenes in public. Most are low-maintenance partners and friends who do not make excessive demands on others (in fact, they are unlikely to ask for help even when they desperately need it).

Common sense, modesty, and diplomacy enable Virgos to get along well with most people, though they may prefer the company of animals to that of most people unless their ascendants are in more outgoing fire or air signs.

Even atypically extroverted Virgos will usually hang back in social situations while they assess others they have just met because they do not like to put themselves forward until they know what sort of people they are dealing with. They prefer not to engage with those who are unreasonable, unreliable, or unpredictable, so they spend some time observing new prospects before establishing a true friendship or making or responding to romantic overtures.


Unless they have more outgoing ascendants, Virgos need to spend time alone pursing their own activities. When they do socialize, they prefer to do something intellectually or physically active with their companions.

Virgos like to be exercising either their bodies or their minds at all times, and they will quickly grow restless when not on the move mentally or physically. They are rarely happy with unmotivated individuals. Instead, they seek companions who are as active and motivated as they are.

Strong in Adversity

Virgos are wonderful to have around when a friend, family member, or partner is in need because they will do what is necessary to ensure that any sick or vulnerable person is well taken care of. Virgos are often at their best when situations or other people are at their worst, providing tangible support and applying common sense to solve problems and relieve the distress of friends and partners.

Although they project a calm demeanor even in difficult situations, Virgos are natural worriers. Ideal companions are those who encourage them to share their anxieties and help them put these fears and obsessive thoughts into perspective so that they do not become overwhelming.

Emotionally Reserved

Virgos are slow to trust and warm up to new people, and they will rarely engage in spontaneous hugging and other physical demonstrations of affection until they know someone very well. Even then, such demonstrations may not be frequent (at least in public). However, when Virgos do show physical affection, companions can be sure that it is a genuine expression of friendship or love rather than a meaningless gesture offered to anyone.

Virgo emotional detachment and repression of feelings usually keep fights and destructive impulses to a minimum (the exception to this rule is a Virgo with a more passionate rising or moon sign). However, this impressive self-control and tendency to think rather than feel things out can make Virgos appear uncaring, and this perception is exacerbated by the Virgo ability to walk away from relationships suddenly without looking back.

Because they tend not to show emotions or express their feelings openly, when Virgos are unhappy in a situation, their partners may not realize that there is a problem until it is too late. Virgos disentangle from people relatively easily and with as little fuss as possible, making the decision to go based on a rational analysis of the situation rather than emotion and slipping away quietly to avoid emotional drama whenever possible.

Virgo Compatibility with Other Signs

Aries Taurus Gemini Cancer Leo Virgo Libra Scorpio Sagittarius Capricorn Aquarius Pisces

The Atypical Virgo

The sun sign isn’t the only element that influences personality. Aspects and planetary placements, particularly the moon sign and rising sign (ascendant), are also important. For example, a Virgo with Sagittarius rising will be more laid back, extroverted, and careless, and with Leo rising, a Virgo will be less cautious and sensible and more optimistic and romantic. Taurus rising will enhance the pragmatic, down-to-earth side of Virgo, while an Aquarius ascendant brings out the intellectual, experimental side at the expense of practicality.

There are many websites that offer free chart calculation to determine other planetary placements and aspects. Learning these other planetary placements is recommended, as it provides a more comprehensive personality profile.

Further Reading

For more on Virgo, see the Virgo Personality Profile. To see personality and compatibility profiles for all the sun signs, visit the main Astrology page.


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    • Fenton, S. (1989). Rising Signs.
    • Woolfolk, J.M. (1992). The Only Astrology Book You’ll Ever Need.

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