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By Shaya Weaver
Traditional astrologers believe that Geminis are most compatible with Aries, Gemini, Leo, Libra, and Aquarius, and least compatible with Virgo, Scorpio, Capricorn, Sagittarius, and Pisces, but what do the actual marriage and divorce statistics say?
Mathematician Gunter Sachs (1998) conducted a large-scale study of sun signs, encompassing nearly one million people in Switzerland, which found statistically significant results on a number of measures including marriage and divorce. Castille (2000) conducted a similar study in France using marriage statistics collected between 1976 and 1997, which included more than six million marriages. Findings from these studies are summarized below.
Marriage: Gemini Men
The Sachs Study
Sachs found that Gemini men are most likely to marry Gemini women, and that they have a higher-than-average divorce rate with Capricorn women, but are least likely to part from Taurus, Gemini, and Scorpio women. Some of these results are surprising because traditional astrologers consider Taurus-Gemini and Taurus-Scorpio very incompatible matches. Perhaps the excitement of passionate clashes keeps things interesting (Geminis have low boredom thresholds). However, it’s also possible that Gemini open-mindedness and psychological flexibility prevents these fixed signs from becoming too rigid while Taurus or Scorpio provides some much-needed stability and pragmatism for impulsive, chaotic Gemini so that both individuals benefit from their complementary strengths.
The higher-than-average divorce statistic between Gemini men and Capricorn women is unsurprising. Capricorns often find Geminis flighty and irresponsible, while Geminis view Capricorns as overly cautious “wet blankets” that have a gloomy, suffocating effect on their sense of fun.
The following is an overall ranking from most common to least common marriages with Gemini men (* indicates that the result is statistically significant – in other words, too large to attribute to random chance):
- Gemini*
- Libra
- Taurus
- Sagittarius
- Scorpio
- Leo
- Aquarius
- Pisces
- Cancer
- Capricorn
- Virgo
- Aries
As expected, Geminis are most likely to marry and stay married to other Geminis, probably due to shared attitudes, lifestyle preferences, values, and interpersonal styles.
The Castille Study
Castille also found that Gemini men are most likely to marry Gemini women. However, the least common marriage partners for Gemini men in France are Pisces women. The following is an overall ranking from most common to least common marriages with Gemini men (* indicates that the result is statistically significant):
- Gemini*
- Aries
- Scorpio
- Taurus
- Libra
- Virgo
- Aquarius
- Capricorn
- Leo
- Cancer
- Sagittarius
- Pisces*
It’s no surprise to find a lower-than-average marriage rate between Gemini and Pisces. Astrologers believe these two signs are incompatible, as Pisces tends to be sensitive (in many cases over-sensitive) while Gemini is can be oblivious to the feelings of others unless his ascendant or moon is in a water sign. However, it may actually be the similarities between these two signs that create problems. Both can be scattered, erratic, naive, and at times, unrealistic. Each does better with a person who acts as a solid anchor and neither can do this for the other unless their ascendants are in more stable signs.
Of course, if the two individuals have very compatible rising signs or moon signs, opposing tendencies will be minimized and the relationship will be much better than expected.
Marriage: Gemini Women
Sachs Study
Sachs found that Gemini women are most likely to marry Gemini men, but least likely to marry Tauruses and Scorpios. As for divorce statistics, Gemini women part least often from Gemini men, but divorce Scorpio, Sagittarius, and Aquarius men at an above-average rate.
The above-average divorce rates for Gemini women and Sagittarius and Aquarius men may be attributable to the traits these signs share rather than their differences. It’s difficult for two people whose intellects pull them in many different directions to stick together over a lifetime, and sun signs inclined toward impulsiveness, excitement-seeking, love of novelty, and emotional detachment may break up more easily than those who tend to be more cautious, practical, stable, and sensitive.
Although Gemini and Scorpio are considered to be fundamentally incompatible, Gemini men and Scorpio women have a below-average divorce rate, whereas Gemini women and Scorpio men are less likely than average to make it to the altar. Why do Gemini men and Scorpio women seem to have more sticking power as a pair, on average, than Scorpio men and Gemini women? It’s possible that Scorpio men are more prone to jealousy and therefore less tolerant of playful, extroverted Gemini’s friendliness toward other men. Of course, there are many other possibilities as well.
The following is an overall ranking from most common to least common marriages with Gemini women (*indicates that the result is statistically significant):
- Gemini*
- Libra
- Aquarius
- Cancer
- Aries
- Pisces
- Virgo
- Sagittarius
- Leo
- Capricorn
- Scorpio*
- Taurus*
The marriage rates for Gemini women provide no surprises. At the top of the list are the three air signs, considered to be Gemini’s most compatible matches. At the bottom are two signs prone to jealousy and possessiveness. Typical Geminis are flirtatious and have a tendency to stir the pot when bored, which may trigger flares of temper in fixed earth and water signs. However, if the rising or moon signs of the two individuals are more compatible, problems will be minimized and these matches can be interesting.
Castille Study
Like the Sachs study, the Castille study found the highest rate of marriage between Gemini women and Gemini men. However, the least common marriage partners for Gemini women in France are Pisces men. The following is an overall ranking from most common to least common marriages with Gemini women (*indicates that the result is statistically significant):
- Gemini*
- Cancer
- Taurus
- Sagittarius
- Leo
- Aquarius
- Aries
- Scorpio
- Virgo
- Libra
- Capricorn
- Pisces*
Finding Pisces at the bottom of the Gemini women’s marriage list is unsurprising because Pisces tends to be oversensitive while Gemini can be insensitive to other people’s feelings, and neither can provide the stability the other needs. However, compatible rising signs or moon signs can improve things for this pair by making Gemini more sensitive and intuitive or Pisces more easy going and emotionally detached.
The Best Match for Gemini
The best match for Geminis of either gender appears to be another Gemini, while the more difficult matches may include Pisces and Capricorn. However, Geminis who find themselves romantically entangled with one of the less compatible signs should not despair. Plenty of relationships and marriages between supposedly incompatible signs have lasted.
It’s important to keep in mind that these are statistical tendencies; this doesn’t mean that every romance between incompatible signs is doomed. For example, out of 6,498,320 marriages in the Castille study, there were 1,029 more marriages between Gemini men and Gemini women than would be expected if sun signs had no effect, whereas between Gemini men and Pisces women, there were 635 fewer marriages than would be expected if pairings were random. However, there still were many marriages between the supposedly least compatible signs.
Astrology is complex, and there is more to take into account than just sun signs. Two people with incompatible sun signs may have highly compatible rising signs or moon signs that can make the difference between a bad match and a good match with a bit of an “edge” that keeps things interesting.
*The methodology of the Sachs study has been criticized and it remains controversial. I have found no critiques of the Castille study thus far.
Further Reading
For more on Gemini, see the Gemini Personality Profile. To see personality and marriage profiles for all the sun signs, visit the main Astrology page.
References:
- Bugler, C. (Ed.) (1992). The Complete Handbook of Astrology. Marshall Cavendish Ltd., Montreal, 1992.
- Castille, D. (2000). “Sunny Day for a Wedding.” Les Cahiers du RAMS.
- Sachs, G. (1998). The Astrology File: Scientific Proof of the Link Between Star Signs and Human Behavior. Orion Books Ltd., London.
- Woolfolk, J.M. (2001). The Only Astrology Book You’ll Ever Need. Madison Books, Lanham, MD.
So i have an unromantic eye wandering gemini partner who cant commit! Cheers…leo
Lmao
I’m a gemini married to a leo. It’s HARD! I’m surprised it says we are compatible!! Good luck!
How hard?
Leo’s are stubborn
We are loyal. Misunderstood but loyal.
Run
ya they’re best with other Gemini 🙂 im a Gemini and no other sign has ever worked out..
I spent 32 years with an Aquarius. Hard hard time. Now free to be me.
Gemini,with Gemini riseing
I spent 32 years with an Aquarius. Very hard time for me. But now I can be me,Gemini with a Gemini raising
So true I spent 15yrs with a Aquarius shit what was I thinking glad that’s over with. I am now Gemini-Gemini relationship way better
I spent 8 years with an Aquarius traded that in for a Gemini too… best relationship ever!!
I am an aries dating a gemini man…it has been very challenging
I am a gemini Gemini with Gemini it’s the best at the first port of the relationship
I am a Gemini and I have been married to a Virgo for 6 years with 2 children and we are doing good surprisingly. I used to believe and live by horoscopes until I met him. But I come back and read this stuff and sometimes agree but also laugh. Horoscopes aren’t always true. But I am glad I found my wonderful husband
well said , I’m a gemini woman and I strongly agree that gemini- gemini partnership is marvellous.
I’m a Taurus woman and I love Gemini men! They intrigue me and they are so sexy. My boyfriend is a Gemini and he is awesome! We had a few rocky moments in our relationship, but we got through them and are now stronger then we were before.
I am a Gemini with a Libra man and it is an amazing relationship. Left my horrible taurus ex for libra and so glad i did:)
you left him.. for another man? harsh.
Oh good for you! I’ve been married to a Taurus for the past 2.5 years. And I think I’m going crazy! I need to run and run fast.
Glad you found happiness in your second marriage. It gives me hope!!!
Gemini woman here!! I am only 20 years old, but i have had many many manyyy relationships. About 7 to be exact. i was with a cancer man and OH MY GODDDD he was so boring! alll he wanted to do was go outside and take pictures, instead of being with me. [its kind of my fault since im a photographer, so i got him into photography] but then i started talking to a scorpio and all he would want to do was sexual things and i dont want that 24/7. i think its idiotic. he once pulled out his dick and expected me to blow him, but i didnt. after he told his friends that i did. SO DONT GET WITH A SCORPIO!!!!!! Now, i am dating a gemini man. he is intriguing and i am exactly like him.. now i know it sounds boring, but since we both tend to get bored easily, we go out and do something fun.
moral of story:
– gemini man, get with a gemini woman! we are amazing and funnnn 😉
Mines a scorpio, itll be 15 years in Nov. Let me tell you it’s been a hell of a fkg ride. We have 3 boys. I’m 32 and hes 38. We fight all the the time. Hes way jealous, possessive and very manipulative. I wonder whatd it would be like to be with a Gemini???? I’ve tried to work on our relationship and hoped things would change, but it doesnt seem so….I’ve spent most of my teen years and half of my life with him, and I partially stayed with him for my kids sake. I didn’t want my kids to be without both parents, but got damn I wish o would of left a long time ago. Hes mot a bad person, he just has alot of issues. I just want to be free and see how it feels to be with someone else or shot just be single and be independent for once. I got with him 16 turning 17 years old. Now here iam about to be 33. Hes always been there, I never got to experience being independent,on my own. I love him, I wonder if things will EVER change.
Am an Aquarius man and dating a Gemini lady.we re amazing but sometimes we argue and come back to ourselves.she loves fun and I do too.planning marrying her.but she said wait so I luv the waiting period.
I am a Gemini woman I met and fell deeply in love with a Libran man we had a wonderful life. But I had no idea he was a serial cheat, people told me things about him and family to, but I followed my heart. And he bulldozed my heart and I feel he planed. It he had no heart I forgave forgave. The years went by and he did not want to settle down at all he lied to me every year I believed, we would tie the knot as I was engaged to him, cut a long story short he was no good he cheated on me right through our entire relationships I was younger than he was. But age did not matter. I thought he was a decent man who had morals I believed he came from a stable home I thought his mom and dad. Was like my parents , no his parents had a weird marriage he was never at home. His mom was always on her own. She was very miserable. And me no I lived in a happy home with love and kindness my parents I miss them both passed away. If a woman could have a good man and he treat her right it be great. But my experience a good and loyal man is so hard to find. Not in a relationship. I am loving myself sorting out my health. I walked away from that man I forgive him I know I gave him the best years of my life and he just kept liveing serial cheat he did not care about me. What I stand for my ambitions my decency he just threw it all away. On women that did not look better than me sorry to say. I have standards and I will not allow anyone to bring me down to face the grown . All I know I am free and living my life with my family. Love don’t live here anymore
I am a Gemini woman with a partner – Pisces. It’s been 5 years of hell, pretty much, with a bit of sunshine here and there. I took me that long to accept that Gemini and Pisces simply do not go well together.
My pisces soulmate passed away 7 months ago. We were happily (for the most part) married for 33 1/2 years. We have two of the most wonderful sons a mom could ask for. I loved my husband with all my heart and he loved me too. We had many an argument, often over nothing, but never went to bed angry. That is very important in sustaining a good relstionship. The longer arguments and hurt festers the harder it is for the injured parties to forgive. We both said things we didn’t mean to hurt one another in the heat of an argument but we recognised that we were both at fault and we forgave each other. The main attraction to my pisces was his honesty and trustworthiness, which we shared. As much as I respect and believe in astrology, human character traits can be influenced quite heavily by the environment that one is born and raised in. That in itself leaves a broad span for interpretation of the placement of the planets at any given time. We all have unique experiences and personalities. Astrology just gives a broad overview of the posible outcomes. How you interpret that is up to you. If you fall in love with a pisces don’t run unless your heart tells you to. You could be missing out on your soulmate.
In an interesting side note, my best girlfriend, from age 4 till her death at 35 was born on the exact same day as my late husband. Coincidence…. I think not!
I’m a Gemini woman Leo man it seemed as though it would be perfect great friendship distarious relationship wise . I can’t be me totally controlling Leo’s , possessive etc Gemini is not .. honestly they had been some ups but it’s msinly all been downs . I’ve felt suffocated almost a majority of the time and felt I cannot be my authentic self . Leo can love but not the love I require it’s a controlling possession love , we give free love expect the same back no possession but still expect commitment. I can be committed still have adventure & a life . I can’t do mundane. I’ll be glad when the stalking over he finally goes worse 7 years of my life !
I am a Gemini man was married to a Gemini woman for 21 years, awesome fun, caring and loving. I met a leo woman was with her 8 months, the most controlling and argumentative person I know, possessive and when i left couldn’t handle it. Met another Gemini woman, fun and loving, no offense but stick with your star sign, they fulfill you.
I am a gemini woman who dated a taurus..watch out terrible match
26 year old Gemini woman, and a 35 year old Aquarius man. We have one child together, we’ve been I guess you could say on and off for about five years now, I love him to death, and he loves me too, he’s controlling sometimes, either his way or the highway, and he thinks he’s always right with everything. I mean yes, we’ve had some ups and downs, I was dealing with a heroin addiction, and a past long term girlfriend died of an overdose so he was very protective. He’s mostly an asshole and has done stupid things to me because the way he was raised, and the things he’s personally been through in his life, but our sex life is amazing! But when things are good they are really good! He tends to hold onto the bad things I’ve did in the past to hurt me during arguments, we both have a sharp tongue and can get physically violent during fights, but we usually make up pretty quickly (usually sex lol it worked wonders) and forget that it ever happened. He is very protective but he doesn’t get emotional like I do or show any emotion hardly ever. He is very independent and likes to work hard to have a good future. I am hoping to spend the rest of my life with him, I just wish we could be more stable and on the same page with our feelings. No more lying and saying hurtful things. But time apart seems to help too and not to be too up each others asses, then it can lead to trouble, but motivate each other, it helps strengthen your bond! I wouldn’t trade him for the world no matter what we have gone through, I just can’t let this one go for some reason. We also share the love of exercise, and being outdoors, and being around friends and having strong bonds with family.
My sons dad, presently is a 30 year old Aries. We dated for a little over 3 years, our relationship was good, but I also was 17 when we first started dating (he was 21 I think), but we liked to go out, and we always made each other laugh, he was very caring and protective, and worked hard to spoil me. He liked to go out and have a good time and go out on dates. He used to be a flirt, and I used to go all crazy on him, but he never laid a hand on me, or called me out my name. He cried if something was hurting him or sad, and I know he genuinely cares, I didn’t get over him for awhile, but present day, our relationship is very good! I had sex with him a few times while me and my current “boyfriend/daughters dad” weren’t really together, but we still have love and respect for each other, it is different for everyone though, especially since we had a son together when I was 18, and he was my first actual long term boyfriend, and the first boyfriend I lived with. Thought we were going to get married as well, but I was going through hard times even back then, and it was actually my own fault that I couldn’t contain being a natural flirt! But yes Aries and Aquarius definitely work out! As long as you can get past the little bumps in the road! I love being a Gemini! (6/10/92)
I am a Gemini man. I’m currently dating a cancer woman, which I think its kinda off topic. anyways I’m not really sure if this is the best choice but I kinda like the mix imotion thing I have with her, and how we spend more time going out even though she likes settling in. Not so sure if I want to continue with this.But hey, if she makes me happy then am all good with it
Wow have to come back and read everyone comments. I’m a gemini and find myself going back forth with a gemini guy. It seems hard but I understand him. Everyone here gave me hope with their testimony. We aren’t together just because we haven’t made it to that stage. But nothing bad has happen. Just confusion and misunderstanding.
I’m a capricorn woman in a relationship with a gemini man. This relationship is everything but easy. We are both strong individuals and so opposite, like the sun and the moon, the child and the old person. We discovered have nothing in common, not even values for the future and if we do, I’m oblivious to them cause a gemini men does not talk about commitment, emotions, and so on. We deeply love each other but we don’t know how to be with each other. It’s sad.
48yr old Gemini woman here now dating a 24yr old Gemini man. But, we only look 3yrs apart…go figure! It’s a very comfortable relationship and we appreciate what the other has to offer. The intellectual and sexual fantasy part is on point and we keep things light and fun with No judgement what so ever. We always know when some thing isn’t right with the other one and we address it, say what needs to be said and we move on.
Now I’ve been married to a Leo. Hard working but only thought of himself & was verbally abusive. Married a Taurus and we were like night and day but he was a quiet romantic and took very good care of me. I screwed that one up by thinking I needed communication and seeking sex outside my marriage to satisfy my craving. Then I met an Aries and I finally knew what being in love felt like. Unfortunately he had to go away for a few years and I was faithful for 3yrs then got lonely and met an Aquarius. He was 15yrs younger than me and ended up being the worse relationship ever. Very toxic to a Gemini. Found out he was narcissistic and I lost who I was within those 5yrs. I did meet a Libra, also 24yrs old recently and we had a good partnership and great sex. But I’m into my Gemini guy and we mesh very well. We are happy to have found each other and fingers crossed on a long term happiness.