The typical Virgo is a diplomatic, undemanding, humble, and thoughtful companion. Virgos value intelligence above style and stability above dramatic intensity in both romantic relationships and friendships. They do best with calm, practical, reasonable companions who have a passion for learning and intellectual exploration.
Cautious and Selective
Virgos are very choosy when it comes to friends and lovers—they won’t hang around with just anyone. Virgos can fall in love, but it takes a very special person to win them over because they’re independent by nature and afraid of being hurt. They don’t like to be vulnerable to others and love is the greatest vulnerability.
Some Virgos are voluntarily single due to emotional caution or because they would rather be on their own than settle for a badly flawed relationship. They also tend to be fastidious, and they have difficulty tolerating people who are careless about personal hygiene.
Emotionally Reserved and Considerate
Virgos are slow to trust and less likely to engage in spontaneous hugging and other physical demonstrations of affection until they know someone very well, and even then, such demonstrations may not be frequent. However, when Virgos do show physical affection, companions can be sure that it is a genuine expression of friendship or love rather than a meaningless gesture offered to anyone.
For Virgos, ideal companions are those who appreciate love shown through considerate and helpful actions rather than romantic words and gestures or emotionally charged discussions of feelings.
Inquisitive and Analytical
Virgos have a strong intellectual curiosity about other people, and this intense focus may sometimes be mistaken for romantic interest. Being analytical and hungry for knowledge, Virgos want to learn what makes their friends and lovers tick.
Typical Virgos like to know how things work and how to do things, so they will spend much of their free time researching topics of interest. They appreciate companions who are similarly interested in learning new things and those who have useful knowledge to impart.
Self-Controlled and Reasonable
Typical Virgos are reasonable and intellectually stimulating companions. They’re not prone to squandering money or picking fights, so interactions are less likely to be stressful than those with more volatile signs.
Classy and self-controlled by nature, Virgos are unlikely to make ugly scenes in public or exploit the vulnerabilities of others. Most are low-maintenance partners and friends who don’t make excessive demands or thrive on drama.
Practical, Active, and Health Conscious
Virgos seek to create calm, healthy environments in which friends and lovers can thrive, and they offer practical assistance and support to those in need.
Most Virgos are somewhat introverted and need to spend time alone, though when they do socialize, they prefer to do something intellectually or physically active rather than just watching television or engaging in other undemanding activities. Typical Virgos like to be exercising either their bodies or their minds at all times, and quickly grow restless when not on the move mentally or physically.
Most Virgos have an interest in fitness, health, and nutrition, and they use this knowledge to positively influence the habits of those around them. Their focus on fitness and health may lead to a love of certain sports or other physical activities, and Virgos do best with friends and lovers who share these interests.
Strong in Adversity
Virgos are wonderful to have around when a friend, family member, or partner is in need, because the typical Virgo will do what’s necessary to ensure that any sick or vulnerable person is well taken care of. Virgos are often at their best when situations or other people are at their worst, providing tangible support and applying common sense to solve problems.
Although they project a calm demeanor even in difficult situations, Virgos are natural worriers. Ideal companions are those who encourage them to share their anxieties and help them put these fears and obsessive thoughts into perspective so that they don’t become overwhelming.
The Atypical Virgo
The sun sign isn’t the only element that influences personality. Aspects and planetary placements, particularly the moon sign and rising sign (ascendant), are also important. For example, a Virgo with Sagittarius rising will be more laid back, extroverted, and careless, and with Leo rising, a Virgo will be less cautious and sensible and more optimistic and romantic. Taurus rising will enhance the pragmatic, down-to-earth side of Virgo, while an Aquarius ascendant brings out the intellectual, experimental side at the expense of practicality.
There are many websites that offer free chart calculation to determine other planetary placements and aspects. Learning these other planetary placements is recommended, as it provides a more comprehensive personality profile.
For more on Virgo, see the Virgo Personality Profile. To see personality and marriage profiles for all the sun signs, visit the main Astrology page. To get an astrology chart, see the Astrology Charts page.
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